Over the Hills and Far Away

So it’s time to close up this particular string of articles based on my adventures in the exciting realm of matrimony to date. Yeah it hasn’t been long but together we’ve already learned  a lot and we’ve gotten some lessons that have taken others who have come before us years to understand and cost still more people their marriages.

Every relationship has challenges and those can be things from how you kiss, to how you fold laundry to big things like having to be long distance for work or being allergic to animals and marrying a critter person. For Nalora and I the big challenge is actually one of the ones I listed. Long distance. For our relationship of four months and for better then half of our marriage I’ve been away for work.  I have to be away for at least the next four months, of that time if I’m lucky I’ll be home for the better part of four days. Unfortunately that’s going to be a standard for a lot of our lives while I’m working my current job. It sucks but it’s life and we’re both prepared to deal with it. I know my wife can handle it (and not just because she’s tougher then me) but because we have too, and that’s just part of the vows, through the good and the bad you carry on together. That’s what love truly is utter commitment to one another, not because you need that person in your life, but because you want them there, no matter what.

A lot of people use the word “need” when they talk about the person they have in their lives. Oh I need her or him in my life, that’s an addiction like any other and I’ll tell you what any relationship where you “need” someone, won’t last long distance. I’ve tried and she just went off and “needed” someone else.

I have someone in my life now, a special person that I want in my life the way you want air in your lungs, food in your stomach and shelter from the storms. I want her in my life more then those things because with out her none of it matters any more, I lose the will to breath, the need to eat and I cease to care about the storms around me. She wants me in her life the same way, that’s why we did what we did, why we got married. That’s the beautiful part about this mutual want, we have each other, we have each other as husband and wife, as partners, as soul mates.

That’s the type of bond where distance doesn’t matter, time and space are nothing to love,  unstoppable and indestructible by a mere thing like separation.

All I can say is that if you find yourself in a situation like mine, a love this strong and powerful. Hold her close whenever you can, and hold her heart close forever. believe in her, yourself and your love. That’s the key to surviving when your over the hills and far away.

Quote of the Post:

You know your in love because reality is finally better then your dream
-Dr. Seuss

PS No update for this friday because of MLK day weekend, I don’t have to work so I’m not going to. See you all next week.